Friday, March 6, 2009

Wedding Budget

Here's a run-down of our budget, well under the original 35K. If you haven't planned a huge event in 15 years, or you think weddings should cost 5K or only have 50 people or something, just move along. This post is not for you.

This wedding has over 200 guests. I'll go over individual categories later. I have a lot more to say than this and about individual expenses.

This post is pre-scheduled, so hopefully this budget is close enough. Oh, and don't bother with the passive aggressive, "who needs a wedding that costs more than 5K" "those flowers are absurd" posts, unless you wanna argue with my Mama. Didn't think so.

We really put our money where our mouth is! Looking at this budget, you can see exactly what the priorities were for us.
* For Senor Dog, he had to fly in that DJ, and he was the first thing booked.
* I cared about photography and about spending a relaxing morning with my girls and my mom with hair and makeup
* Mom wanted cake and flowers. I lost that one.

Apparel:

725 wedding dress + cultural dress + alterations
250 accessories
610 bridesmaid dresses
100 ties for men
220 kids’ clothes (junior BM, ring bearer, flower girl)
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1,905

Reception:

2,500 venue fees
3,500 food
1,500 booze
1,500 DJ (flown in)
700 bartenders
800 cake (Mama’s dream)
125 rentals
200 tips
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10,825

Décor:
50 ceremony
2600 flowers (Mama’s dream)
600 linens
300 reception accessories (frames, vases, candles, kids coloring books)
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3,550

Pros:
700 valet (mandatory)
200 security (mandatory)
4,000 photography (2 photographers + photoshopping + prints/album +engagement shots)
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4,900

Getting Ready with the Girls:
600 hair
400 makeup
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1,000

Other:
300 hotel room (suite for girls’ morning + wedding night)
800 paper (invites, save the date, thank you, programs, menus)
170 postage
50 guest book
85 website + hosting
250 attendant gifts
100 officiant gift
250 plane ticket for friend in Haiti
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2,005

Total: 24,185

17 comments:

J. Kitch said...

Looks good to me! You all did excellent because you came in under your budget which you have already saved for. Can't beat that with a bat...

frugal zeitgeist said...

I think it's nice that you bought the bridesmaids' dresses, ties, andkids' clothes. I did the same thing when I got married, plus a suit for my ex-husband's brother. I was shocked when I found out that that wasn't the norm.

asgreen said...

It is amazing that you bought the bridesmaid dresses. What a generous thing to do!

L.A. Daze said...

I'm one of those people who doesn't care about weddings and personally I wouldn't spend a lot on mine. But I do like reading how others go about planning theirs and seeing their budgets/expenses to put things in perspective.

Your total amount isn't bad at all! I thought I was going to see a $60K figure.

My friend is also buying all the bridesmaids dresses. Don't ask me how much her wedding costs though...think closer to 6 figures.

I hope you're enjoying your time off!

stackingpennies said...

I think it is great that you paid for bridesmaid dresses and hair and such. Every wedding I've been in (3 i think), I've had to buy my own. Not sure about hair.

Oh, people already said that. :)

If you can afford it and it is important $25k is reasonable. I plan to spend a lot less, but because it isn't important to me, and I don't want to invite a bunch of guests who have to fly in (we are from dif. states, and our families aren't wealthy). I'm thinking immediate family, tropical beach, nice dress, good photos, and relaxing.

MoneyMateKate said...

Honestly, I think the biggest wastes are the same ones you recognize as wastes - cake and flowers. But I have no desire to argue with Mother-of-the-Dog!

My sister and her groom-to-be also prioritized the reception music, and didn't set the date until they booked the band of their choice. Everything else is looking like a deal and a half!

Sister Bridezilla is the one who was in $18K consumer debt just 5 years ago, and a lot of that can be attributed to flying to friends' bridal events and weddings, plus dresses and all that stuff. I love that you are taking care of all that!

Saving Cents in the City: said...

that looks good to me! my wedding was more than i wish i would have spent, but long island weddings are ridiculously expensive. all together my wedding cost about 35k and had 110 people. the reception alone cost around 18k and photography was around 5-6k. my mom gave us a pretty big chunk of that and thankfully we didn't charge anything, so it was all paid for on the day of the event.

Sallie's Niece said...

Thanks for sharing. I think until you plan a wedding you don't realize how much it actually costs. Hope yours is amazing, congrats!

Single Ma said...

Nothing is a waste of money if it's important to you, your future hubby, or anyone who is paying the bill. Who cares what a random blogger thinks!

Kudos to you for covering the bridal party expenses. Your budget is impressive for 200 people - and paid for with cash!

Jill said...

I think you did awesome!! You planned and saved for it. I think it is great you paid for your girls dresses. That is so nice. Hope you have a wonderful day!!

Saved to Save said...

Thats beautiful that you paid for the bridesmaid's dress to often people ask friends to be in a wedding and expect them to pay. I'm not sure its fair to do that to them. Thats an expense that they did not plan for.

Well you stayed under your 35k with room for that JUST IN CASE THINGS GO WRONG.

great plan!

Living Almost Large said...

Good luck and looks great!

Miss M said...

Doesn't look bad to me, I've priced LA area weddings and it would be way higher. I've yet to find a place less than $10k for location and food (not including drinks and all the rest you have under that category). I hope you have wonderful day.

Alex said...

That honestly isn't that absurd of a cost for a wedding. I've been to a few that cost over $50,000.

I also think it's great you paid for your bridemaids' dresses. That is very generous.

Michelle said...

The only thing I find hard to swallow about weddings is others' judgements about the size/cost!! And I hate that in your area, you have to spend (almost) as much for the venue as you do for food & booze total...well - $500 less, but still! Sounds like NOVA.

Michelle said...

OKAY - I can't add - but the venue fees (at 1/2 of the food/booze budget) are still high, but I guess that's just a locale difference...I'm in Texas and that's high-end hotel ballroom pricing.

R. May said...

It's nice that you paid for things like the bridal party's dresses and flying in a friend. Not things I would have done, nor were other things, but it doesn't matter what I or anyone else thinks. Your wedding-your way. And since you didn't go into debt to pay for it no one can say boo about what you spent.