Comments on Dog Ate My Finances: Visiting Jail

Did not get to read why he is in jail. But as a mo...

2009-07-12T20:20:19.109-07:00

Did not get to read why he is in jail. But as a mom of a 17 year old who just got out from spending 4 months in jail. Leave him in there! Write him let him learn. Hard to do but darn it they have to learn. Love the BLOG

So, has the jail put him on a detox program? If he...

2009-07-12T13:25:47.597-07:00

So, has the jail put him on a detox program? If he's an habitual user, it's medically dangerous to let him detox naturally.

I just wonder because you said you hadn't seen him sober in years. Unfortunately, even after the drugs leave the system, the addict behavior continues.

I'm sorry you had to travel all that way and experience all that crap just to be berated. I know you already know this, but you're doing the right thing. It just feels awful.

As for the calls, Tim was furious with his brother because he called his parents constantly from jail. He's the epitome of codependence. But each call is collect. One month, their bill was $600. I think most months it was at least $200. His parents actually lied to us about how much it cost. Later, one of them slipped, which is how we found out. Talk about enabling.

I wish I could offer some wisdom or words of advice but... Matt gets out of rehab today so I'm expecting a whole new slew of anger and resentment as his parents start praising him for breathing. And while Tim and I wait for him to slip up again.

virtual hug There are some problems that cannot...

2009-07-08T10:49:59.486-07:00

*virtual hug*

There are some problems that cannot be solved by money. Addiction is one of them. Just look at all those celebrities that go to rehab.

I wish your brother luck beating his addiction and avoiding jail. I hope to heck that he straightens up and flies right, but I wouldn't be left holding the bag for someone like that either. (Someone who married into my family had a sibling that was an addict. He's cleaned up, but no one knows how long it will last.)

Remand centers or other kinds of pre-sentencing ho...

2009-07-07T17:50:34.770-07:00

Remand centers or other kinds of pre-sentencing holding facilities is some of the hardest time a person can serve. In my area, one of the richest cities in the country, our remand centre was condemned by Amnesty International for unclean water, filth, lack of ventilation. It's an embarrassment.

Sorry you had to experience that, dog.

Wow. He needs to learn the lesson the hard way.. ...

2009-07-07T16:06:30.629-07:00

Wow.

He needs to learn the lesson the hard way.. I'm so sorry you have to go through this

big hug not much more to say besides that - st...

2009-07-07T15:41:16.422-07:00

**big hug** not much more to say besides that - stay strong.

I hope you told him that the rest of his life will...

2009-07-07T15:15:58.280-07:00

I hope you told him that the rest of his life will be spent in just such places if he doesn't get clean and stay off the drugs. His choice, his life.

the only person who can help him, is himself. if h...

2009-07-07T12:36:47.579-07:00

the only person who can help him, is himself. if he doesn't want help, nothing will make a difference.